Letting go of anger can be hard, and if you choose the wrong person to vent to, you can regret it later.
Ranting and raving to Jesus can help.
To do this, the first thing you need to know is that it’s okay to speak out loud or in your head. Jesus can hear either so choose what is most comfortable to you in the situation.
Second, be as honest as possible. Tell Him what you really think. How you really feel about some of the people He made who are irritating you, or something horrible He “let” happen in your life.
Third, don’t hold back. Be brutally honest.
Jesus is big. He can take it when you’re letting go of anger.
And the best part is, it’s not like He’s going to tell anybody what you said. Let Him have it with all the dirty details.
Of course He knows everything you’re thinking and feeling already. He sees and hears everything and knows us better than we know ourselves.
But this is about you and your chance to get it off your chest. There is an exchange and release that happens when we let it all out. It can feel so wonderful.
Finally, when you’re all done, thank Jesus for being there to listen.
Letting go of anger can help build your relationship with Jesus.
Jesus is happy to be a good listener when you need Him. This can build your relationship with Him just like it would with an earthly friend who was there when you needed them.
And the bonus of it all…there’s no need to feel guilty afterward or worry about what you said, or shouldn’t have said, when Jesus is the one you’re ranting to. Your secrets are safe with Him.
If you’re a high-guilt person like me and feel bad for cutting loose on Jesus afterward, remember these emotions aren’t foreign to Jesus. Even Jesus cried out in fear in the Garden of Gethsemane, knocked tables over in the temple, and wept in mourning at loss and death. During his human life, He felt all the emotions we feel.
Feelings and emotions aren’t sinful. It’s what we choose to do with them, where we turn and how we let them out, that’s important.
When we go to Jesus and pour our heart out to Him letting go of anger, our strong emotions turn into a gift, because they bring us closer to Jesus.
Steps to Letting Go of Anger
- Speak out loud or in your mind, whatever is most comfortable for you.
- Be honest.
- Don’t hold back.
- Be respectful. Jesus is a friend, so keep that in mind.
- Say thank you like you would thank a friend for listening to you.
Friends are important, and it’s good to talk to them when you need a little emotional support. But when steam is coming out of your ears and you’re so down in the dumps you can’t take another step, let Jesus be your first go-to.
These steps, repeated as often as necessary, have a double bonus. They help when you’re letting go of anger, and they build your friendship with Jesus.